It never really crossed my mind that I would visit America, let alone live there.

America was not part of the plan.  The plan was that after several years of living in Singapore, my husband Henry and I would return to live in the UK with our two small boys.

We had never owned a house before but finally with a deposit to hand, decided to target rural North Essex, an area with which we had no prior links. Spotting a magical looking yellow thatched cottage online, we put in an offer and bought it before viewing it.  Tenants were installed until we were in a position to return.

By June 2015 we had left our life in the tropical sweat box behind and were living the dream in our quaint little chocolate box house which had ancient beams and a garden spilling out onto open fields.


The dream was short lived.  In July 2015 Henry was approached about working in New York with his existing company.  He turned the job down immediately – of course we weren’t about to uproot having just relocated from Singapore.  I breathed a hearty sigh of relief and went back to the paddling pool with the boys.

But then Henry was approached about the job again.  This one was going to be difficult to refuse. It was suggested that perhaps we undertake a recce to help us with the decision making.

And so it was that at the end of August, Henry and I left the boys with my trusty mother for a few days and set forth to have a look at NYC.

I won’t go into too much detail, other than to say that I was something of a wreck on the recce, struggling to compute the enormity of moving country again having only just arrived back in the bosom of beloved Blighty.  Poor Henry.



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  1. Very well expressed, but I only hope that the obvious attractions of living on the East Coast of America are no longer alluding poor Fi and that she and her family are happily ensconced in American living even if not fully embracing it yet?!!


    1. Thank you Lou! Yes Mrs P across the Pond is delighted to report that after a testing first few weeks, American life is proving to be pretty agreeable – this morning’s parking ticket notwithstanding…


  2. Hi Liz,

    I really like your blog and wanted to ask if you would be interested to participate in my study about expat spouse adjustment.

    I am like you an expat spouse currently living really close to you, in Montville NJ. I work on my doctoral dissertation researching the adjustment of expat spouses over time. To do so, I analyze their online blogs (only with the author’s permission).
    Well, I am finally there enjoying to read the precious online blogs documenting the highs and lows, the beautiful experiences as well as the loss, the changes of perspective and the learning, which a re all part of an expatriation assignment.

    Your blog is so wonderfully written and I very much enjoy taking part in your experience.
    I would like to ask you if you would be willing to take part in my study. It is a case study where I analyze in total 12 blogs written over an entire circle of one assignment. I would need you to sign the informed consent, take part in a 6 minute survey for descriptive data, and when my analysis is complete I would need your time for a 30 minute skype-interview. All information about you will be anonymized in the research.
    If you feel uncomfortable you could terminate your participation at any time.

    I think your blogs capture the life on an expat spouse so rich in detail and I would be honored if you would agree to participate. If you agree, just let me know which destination you want me to capture (as you have already lived through several assignments).

    Here is the link to the consent and questionnaire: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Expat-Spouse-Adjustment

    If you have any questions please feel free to contact me. As we live so close we could also meet for some coffee if you like. I also have kids (9 and 10 years old). Just give me a call +1 973 452 1826

    Greetings from frosty New Jersey, USA

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  3. Hello from the West Coast and from a fellow blogger “of the month of February” 😉
    I can feel what you went through leaving the UK again. I’ve been here for almost ten years and I never came to stay. I’m sure we’d have a lot to chat about. Looking forward to read more of your posts.

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